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#1   2018-11-12 15:41          
Alright, I have something to tell all of you. I don't know how much you will care, but I felt I had to say it anyway.

Some of you may have noticed that I've been taking steps to start using the name "RedCarDriver" on VS instead of what I had previously used. You also may have noticed that I don't tend to talk much about myself, even when some of you have asked me how I've been doing. Some of you may also remember that I disappeared from Facebook a long time ago. These are not coincidences.

The truth is that I have been avoiding mentioning something for years, because I was afraid of what would happen if I said anything about it. I'm not afraid any more. And with current events in America being the way they are, I felt it was important to say something.

The truth is that I, VStanced user RedCarDriver, am a transgender (transsexual) woman. My name is Lydia.




Yes, you read that correctly. No, this is not a joke. I have been out to my family and on hormone replacement therapy since 2015, and my documentation (driver's license, etc) has listed my name as "Lydia" and my sex as female since 2016. This is for real, and this is not going away.

For a long time, I thought about saying nothing. I also thought about trying to lie about it. I could have tried to pretend that I had inherited this account from my brother. I could have claimed I had been pretending to be someone else this entire time. (In a sense, I guess it's true that I have been pretending to be someone else, since I haven't really been that other guy for years - if I ever was him to begin with. I've always been Lydia. I just didn't know it for a long time, and other people didn't know it for even longer.)

Today I have decided that I'm done hiding, and I don't want to try lying. If you can't be honest with people, what's the point? You - VStanced and the SLRR modding community - were the last people remaining who didn't know, and it was getting more and more ridiculous to put on a name I hadn't answered to for years anywhere else.

Honestly, you all probably won't need to worry too much about this. I'm the same person I always have been. Now you just know a little bit more about me. If you didn't know a transgender person before today, now you do.

And, hey, if this gets my mods removed from Modzona (because my existence is illegal in Russia, or something), I guess that's an acceptable loss. :P

If you have (polite!) questions, feel free to ask.

#WontBeErased ⚧


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#2   2018-11-12 15:49          
Inb4 obscene questions
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#3   2018-11-12 17:04          
Too late, i do know one already but in the opposite way woman->man.

If you feel more complete with that, then it's good for you!

***EDIT: wow this message seemed rude IMO. I don't mean no offense, i'm cool with it :D ***

This post was edited by NK748 (2018-11-12 17:21, 391 days ago)

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#4   2018-11-12 18:35          
This doesn't change a thing on how i feel about you or your work:YOU'RE AWESOME. And about this country and anybody that's against the LGBT community:FUCK THEM. Plus, i have a best friend in real life that i consider a brother that's gay. He's saved my ass more times than i can count.
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#5   2018-11-13 16:34          
You're finally back! I had no idea you'd return in this way though. :P It's good that you told this because like you said, people here would still think you're a guy. Why did you decide for such a change? I mean, it's good to change things up sometimes but this is a pretty big one!

Anyway, just stay the same you as you've always been and hope to see you here some more! :)

RedCarDriver

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#6   2018-11-14 00:58          
Thanks for the support, folks!

# Lagano : You're finally back! I had no idea you'd return in this way though. :P It's good that you told this because like you said, people here would still think you're a guy. Why did you decide for such a change? I mean, it's good to change things up sometimes but this is a pretty big one!
If you're asking why I decided to transition in the first place, it's kind of a long story. I always felt like something wasn't right with me. I had plenty of clues what that was, especially when I was really little and didn't see anything wrong with it - but then I realized that people did see something wrong with it, so for the longest time, I just kind of made myself forget about it.

As a guy, I just really didn't care about anything, because I didn't care about the person I was trying to be. I would try to imagine the future, trying to figure out what would make me happy, and every time I would get stuck on "oh, but I still have to be a guy" and suddenly I didn't want to see that future any more. Then I read some things and met some people, and I realized that I could change that, and suddenly I cared about things like I never really had before. That was when I realized I had to go through with it.

If you're asking why I decided to tell all of you - I realized that I hadn't been spending as much time on here or on VStanced's Facebook page as I had wanted, and it was pretty obvious right away that the reason why was because I was still trying to be the same person I thought I was in 2012 or so. I hadn't actually been that person for years, at least not to me. And if people wanted to know how I was doing, how my life had been going since the last time I showed up, I realized I basically couldn't talk about 80% of it. So it was really tiresome to try and make appearances here. I realized that it was actually easier just to tell all of you, if I wanted to stay around.

Anyway, just stay the same you as you've always been and hope to see you here some more! :)
Thanks! Hopefully I will be around more. That's the idea, at least.

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#7   2018-11-14 15:52          
Soooo...no homo I guess? :))
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#8   2018-11-14 15:58          
Happy birthday first, I really hope you have a nice one. Also, im always really happy to see people accepting their feelings and letting them out. Im happy hearing youre doing well and I sincerely hope you keep on doing as well.
Also, hope you get your mods removed from cockzona. Who wouldnt want to? xD

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#9   2018-11-14 18:25          
Hey, glad to see you back, it's been quite a while.
Hope you gonna stay and make some more good ass mods,even though i don't play slrr anymore.

RedCarDriver

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#10   2018-11-14 19:01          
Thanks again for the support, folks!

# BLiTZ : Soooo...no homo I guess? :))
Not into dudes, don't worry about that one :P

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#11   2018-11-14 21:02          
I've just realised that your birthday is one day after mine, how cool is that :D

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#12   2019-02-14 15:02          
Doesn't matter for me a friend is a friend no matter the gender

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#13   2019-02-14 20:07          
as long as you are happy with yourself it's all good. I'm friend with some trans IRL and gotta say they are one of the best persons i know
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